According to Urban Dictionary "Best Friends are very special people in your life. They are the first people you think about when you make plans. They are the first people you go to when you need someone to talk to. You will phone them up just to talk about nothing, or the most important things in your life. When you’re sad they will try their hardest to cheer you up. They give the best hugs in the world! They are the shoulder to cry on, because you know that they truly care about you. In most cases they would take a bullet for you, coz it would be too painful to watch you get hurt. 2 Girl best friends: They do all the girly things together, no one says anything. 2 Boy best friends: They do all the boy stuff together, no one says anything.
1 Boy + 1 Girl best friends: They do boy and girl stuff, People says lots of stuff"
So when I compare my friends to this definition I think of this handful of people. I met all of these women in different parts of my life and honestly, because our different walks in life have taken us in different directions, I do not talk to all of them nearly as much as I would like too.
I have a friend from when I was five that I still have contact with and I would do anything in the world for her, I feel terrible that difficult things happened in both of our lives that separated us when we were just nine years old. I spent years looking for her and when I finally did, though we are no longer all that close I still feel as though I would do anything in the world for her. She was my very first best friend. I spent twelve years looking for her and when I found her, my heart jumped for joy at reuniting with my best friend even if it was only over the internet, but I know that one day I will get to go see her in person again. I can not wait for that day!
Then I have two friends from middle school, who were there for me when I went through the hardest part of my childhood, foster care. When I was taken from my parents and shoved into a random home where I did not know anyone I met these two girls. They instantly became my best friends and though we have all three taken different walks in life, although one of them is an Army wife as well, we still reach out to one another when times get the hardest. We know that even if it is three years since we talked last we can always talk to one another and make things better!
Later, when I moved to Georgia as a teenager and entered into high school, in a whole new state, living with family that I hardly knew, and being in a total state of culture shock. I met the one person in the world I never in my life thought would be my best friend! The quiet girl who hid in a corner with her hair over her eyes and always wore dark clothes. She became my rock for many years! She was always there for me when I felt no one else was. She was there for me through Craig going to Basic Training and AIT, she was there for me when Craig was in Korea for a year. She helped me raise Micha for his first 18 months of life. She is my children's god mother and though I have not talked to her in a while, again due to life taking us in different directions, she will ALWAYS be my best friend, my sister and my rock!
After Craig got orders to Fort Bliss in El Paso, Texas. I thought it was the end of the world. I cried my eyes out leaving my best friend in Georgia. What I did not know is that in the three years I lived in Texas I would make four of the best friends a girl could ask for! I met all four of them in different walks of life in El Paso and each one of them is a very unique person and I was, and still am blessed to call them my friends and Army wife sisters. No matter how much my other friends want to try and understand what the daily struggles are of an Army wife, they just wont understand and these four women understand the struggles of it. They understand how hard it is to be a single mom when your not single, they understand trying to explain why daddy is not coming home to sing to your baby for a whole year, they understand the frustrations that military wives put up with every day. Through these frustrations and even the blessings in disguise we have developed life long bonds that are unbreakable! Army wives become more than just best friends we become family, when your blood family is not there! These four women became more than just my best friends, they were my sisters and I could not have asked for better ones!
I just hope that all eight of these women know how much they mean too me. I hope they realize that no matter how far away I am, no matter how long its been since we talked last, I will ALWAYS be there if they need me, if I can not be there in person I am always a phone call away and I am always willing to listen. I strive to be there for you as much as I can. I love you all more than you will ever understand. Without you guys I would not be who I am and I don't think I would have survived the years! You all were put in my life just when I needed you most!
To my best friends! I love you girls!
Nikki
You have been my only family when I had no one else (other than my children). You are an amazing woman who I love dearly and I am so blessed to call you sister <3
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